When you hear the word ‘luxury’, what do you think of? Private jets? Stacks of cash? Louboutins? Laying on a beach on a secluded island?
I hear this word on a daily basis, and use it myself in my marketing. The glorification of Sugar Baby culture has gotten to the point where I can’t even go on any form of social media without seeing photos of stacks of cash, shopping bags or perfect manicured nails. I was guilty of this myself, taking photos to justify all of the hard work I was doing.
The appeal of luxury has never been about the piles of gold or the secluded islands though. What draws most people in is what is underneath this; the concept of financial security, free time and happiness.
One of my biggest goals that I set for myself at the beginning of the year was that I wanted to let go of the sick obsession that I had with using material objects to measure my success. It is a bad habit that I picked up from my mother, and was cultivated when I started escorting and began earning more money than I knew what to do with.
I had a bit of a breakthrough the other night and realized that the reason I obsess over things is fear. Fear that I won’t be accepted without the latest luxury handbag or outfit. Fear that I am not good enough on my own merit. A big part of letting go of that fear and accepting myself for who I am is shedding all of the things that I don’t need and pursuing a more minimalist lifestyle.
SO! I am setting myself a ‘no spend’ challenge. Apart from bills and necessities, I want to see how long I can go without spending a cent. Hopefully when I cut this ridiculous habit from my life I can begin to appreciate all of the little things I have, and pursue real luxury (freedom, time, security) rather than the superficial idea of money.